Our lives are full of the unencumbered meaning. We have these little moments of feeling free just because we’re not thinking about the things that we should be thinking about. Our lives can seem so simple when we don’t have to think about anything at all.
All we have to do is write a few lines of code to make this happen.
Well, not quite all, but the amount of writing is negligible compared to the amount of time that is spent on other things. We spend the vast majority of our time either in our bedrooms or lying in bed, and its hard to not be distracted by the things that we need to be distracted by.
This is exactly why we need to focus on things that matter, and to do so we need to think about it. No one should be so distracted by their thoughts that they dont know what to do about anything. If we can’t be honest with ourselves about what we need to focus on, then we can’t get good at anything. So we need to make sure that we’re focusing on the things that matter most to us.
The main reason we need to focus on things like music and books is that we need to feel like we’re in the music category, and that’s really a great reason to take music seriously. It means that we should know better how to spend our time and money.
But the real reason our lives are encumbered is because we have no idea what our lives are about. We have no idea what we are for. We have no clue what we want, what we need, or what we want to do. We are so focused on what we want, but no one is around to say, “Hey you have to move out of this apartment and start a business.
We may have to live our lives with a little more self-awareness, but we’re not going to be able to figure it out on our own. We’re going to need to rely on our friends, family, and mentors more than ever. We’re going to need to find a place where we are not alone and that we can turn to for support.
So how do you know when it’s time to move on from someone? You start noticing that they’ve been doing the same thing for years, and you decide that the person you’re thinking of leaving has always been a jerk. If you’re feeling bitter about someone, this might be the time to put them on the block. If you’re feeling good about someone, go for it. If they’ve been a jerk for years, maybe it’s time to let them go.
We all have been in a situation where we felt the need to let some jerk go. And in the past we have also been in a situation where we thought that we could make that person change. A year ago I was talking with my friend and he told me that he thought I was being too hard on myself. That when I stopped smoking, it was only a matter of time before I would stop hitting the bottle.
My friend was right. And to be honest, when I was drinking, I was not the person my friend thought I was. Maybe I even had a couple of beers and a couple of pints, but I didn’t really get a lot of pleasure out of it. I was still drinking to get high and to relieve the pain of being miserable. But now that I’ve stopped drinking, I feel a lot better about myself.