This week, the first of our four-part series on withdrawal, I wanted to talk about how we can take our mind off our problem and put it to work. If we really want to be in a better place, we have to be able to see the problem and choose to fix it. By thinking about it, we can find a way out.
Describing how we’re feeling doesn’t do us any favors, but if we can get our self-talk to align with our problem and we’re in the right mindset, it can be the best route out.
Describing our moods and feelings is more difficult than we think, and it turns out, it’s tough to do. In the past, we may have been able to tell by observing our moods and feelings based on what was going on in our lives at the time, but that’s not the case anymore. We now have to describe our moods and feelings to someone else who can do a better job of describing them.
Forcing someone to describe our moods and feelings can be more challenging than just describing them to ourselves. Forcing someone to describe our moods and feelings has been considered in some cases as a form of torture. We know that we shouldn’t torture people, but sometimes it’s hard to just stop and say “Hey, I can’t describe it right now” because we’re both in the same place.
In that sense, it can be viewed as a form of torture. But that’s not the only reason you should not force people to describe their moods and feelings. You can also be guilty of torture by not telling them to describe their moods and feelings in a way that they can understand.
The most common form of torture is the one known as “descriptive withdrawal.” Describing your feelings and moods gives others the ability to understand you and be able to relate to you, and that is a very valuable skill. But not all of the time. In fact, the ability to describe one’s feelings is even more valuable when you don’t want to, or you’re trying to get away from someone.
This is another form of torture, but you can also escape from it by telling them what you need to get away from them and how your trip will change your outlook on the world. And it can be difficult to say it at first, but you must say it. Some people are very good at telling what they need to do, so they will say it without thinking, much like you do.
It’s very easy to get stuck in withdrawal, which is a bit like a panic attack. But like panic attacks, it can be controlled by using a few very simple techniques. One of these is giving the person you’re withdrawing from enough time to think about what you’re doing. You just need to give the person time to do something. Another is that you only need to tell the person you’re withdrawing from something.
You know the drill. I suggest you read the book ‘How to Stop Obsessing Over Someone and Write Them Back’, by author David Laibson. It can help you stop obsessing about the people youre with. Laibson says that the number one reason people move on in our lives is because they’re overwhelmed by the feelings of being overwhelmed. So the best way to deal with this is to break it up into small chunks.
Even if you don’t need to, you will be able to use the time to get the people youre withdrawing from your life, if you want, you can. You can do that by trying to start something new, by making yourself a little bit more aware of what youre doing. You can do this by being a little more aware of your current situation.
